Everything to Everybody

Everything to Everybody - 1Can a leader be everything to everybody on your team?

First of all I hope everyone had as good of a Thanksgiving as I had. I love the opportunity to be surrounded by family and friends and the copious amount of food doesn’t hurt either. As I sit at my desk on this first Monday in December, I am thinking about the additional fun my extended family had at the Renaissance Festival yesterday. I am looking at a picture that was taken as we entered the gates, and was struck by what other people may think is an odd grouping for a family. I have three kids, all girls, ages 25, 11 and 9. Yes 25. She actually has little ones of her own now.

So I was thinking, does my leadership reach everyone on my team, the way I intend it too? Does it need too? How can I change to make sure I am leading everyone effectively? Do I need too? Finally as a leader is it my responsibility to conform to everyone on my team’s needs?

I do my very best to treat everyone on my team the same way. But we all know that really is not possible, I mean you can’t treat your children as you would treat your wife. And you most certainly can’t treat your grandchildren the same way you treat your children……Or can you?

Money TreeI have always said great leaders lead from the front, and I always want to be a good example. However as I look back at our family outing on Sunday, and realize I spoiled my children and grandchildren. I am thinking that was not the best example to set for them or their parents. I feel as though I need to take every opportunity to teach a lesson, and maybe I missed on. It was money I had put away for this, but no one but my wife knew that. Does my spending money, set a bad example for my daughter and her significant other that may not have it to spend? As a leader should I have exhibited more restraint and said no more….Or did I miss an opportunity to explain to them that I tried to prepare properly because I knew this outing would be expensive?

Trying to be a good example to a young man that intends to marry my daughter is difficult, I say that because I somewhat expect his father to be his example, but I cannot assume that can I? I ask that, because I find myself being a little stricter toward my younger kids when the grand-kids and their parents are around. I tell myself I am doing this to try and show them how to be a good parent, but changing my stance on things when they are around isn’t good parenting.

I don’t want this to be about money and budgeting, because The Lord knows that is not my expertise. I just need to feel like I am reaching everyone on my team, that my lessons are good ones, and that they are understandable to everyone.

Lastly I ask you, Do I need to alter my leadership tactics to reach everyone? As a leader is it my responsibility to conform to everyone on my team’s needs? After all I do know a little about overcoming, adapting and improvising.

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I am a Christian, a Husband and a Father, in that order. Leadership is important to me, because I see too many outside influences acting on the lives of my children, and I need support to make sure I am the most dominant influence. I appreciate your feedback and enjoy reading your input. Thanks in advance for being part of this endeavor.

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