Emotional Intelligence is a topic that I have covered before here on Leadership Voices. But, it is worthy of some additional coverage because of the major influence it has upon your success throughout life and also due to the the fact that it is a skill that can be learned and developed.
Emotional Intelligence involves going past our limited sight, thought, and understanding. By definition, our best insights are those things that we observe, we receive, we experience and not the things that we generate or produce. Emotional intelligence first requires quieting the clamor of our own thoughts and words in order to become aware of ourselves and aware of those around us.
What is my leadership point here?
The key to emotional intelligence and leadership is the development of the sense of how our persona and our ideas are being received by those that we are leading. Can we agree that most of our communication is non-verbal? A fellow writer on this site and a dear friend for many years has a mirror on his desk that was given to him in a training session 20 years ago. It serves to remind him that even when we are on the telephone, when we’re smiling, the attitude transmits and is received by the person on the other end of the line.
For many leaders, this is intuitive. For many, it is not. This is not to be considered as an indictment against those to whom it is not intuitive. There are many leadership styles and there are many successful leaders who don’t care one whit about “Emotional Intelligence”.
But my point is that as a leader we should want to care about how we are perceived by those we lead. We should realize that part of “seeing the big picture” is being able to communicate that picture in authentic and personal ways to those around us. We should want to use words and approaches that are meaningful to the receiver.
Emotional Intelligence has been likened to the graphic equalizer control in music. It tweaks the sound with a range from high to low and it adds depth and color to the sound. The actual lyrics or the musical melody are only a small fraction of the message in the music. People like a positive tone of personal encouragement and empowerment from their leader.
Emotional Intelligence can be learned, developed and maximized with a little awareness and little more effort. And it is incumbent upon us as leaders to do whatever we can to maximize our effectiveness.
The great news about emotional intelligence is that is has such far-reaching effects that go beyond the business world. The husband that masters the abilities to be self-aware and aware of those around him will have much more fulfilling marriages. The father that understands how he comes across to his children and how those children perceive him will begin to adapt how he interacts with each child according to their needs.
How about you? Are you emotionally intelligent? Do you want to know more? We have some great resources available to you here at Leadership Voices and we would love to share them with you. Leave us a comment below or reach out via our Facebook page or by email. You can reach me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I would love to hear from you and work with you in this area.
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