Loneliness in All Aspects of Leadership

Loneliness in All Aspects of Leadership

“There is a loneliness in all aspects of leadership.”

This is a line from a speech given by a man named Gordon B. Hinckley to a group of students and faculty at Brigham Young University in November of 1969.   I will not debate the theology of that institution. Nor will I debate the incidents that gave rise to Mr. Hinckley making the statements that I find so fascinating. But rather I would ask you to consider the impact of that statement on those of us who would be leaders.

At the point that he delivered this address, BYU was embroiled in a great controversy. For those unaware, the BYU football team had recently been to Laramie, WY to play the University of Wyoming at War Memorial Stadium. Fourteen black football players had planned to wear black armbands as part of their uniform to protest the policy of the LDS church that many considered to be racist. These same fourteen players were dismissed from the team on the evening before the big game.

Now consider some more words from Gordon Hinckley about the loneliness of leadership.

“It was ever thus. The price of leadership is loneliness. The price of adherence to conscience is loneliness. The price of adherence to principle is loneliness. I think it is inescapable. The Savior of the world was a Man who walked in loneliness. I do not know of any statement more underlined with the pathos of loneliness than His statement: ‘The foxes have holes, and the birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head’ (Matthew 8:20).

There is a loneliness in all aspects of leadership. I think we feel it somewhat in this university. BYU is being discussed across the nation today because of some of our practices and some of our policies and some of our procedures, but I would like to offer the thought that no institution and no man ever lived at peace with itself or with himself in a spirit of compromise. We have to stand for the policy that we have adopted. We may wonder in our hearts, but we have to stand on that position set for us by him who leads us, our prophet.”

For the record, the policy that prohibited black males from the priesthood was rescinded in 1978. And one of the top leaders of the church at that time was none other than Gordon Hinckley.

What happened between 1969 and 1978? Many things. Not the least of which was the rapid expansion of the LDS church in South America and a new temple being constructed in Brazil. How would the policy of the day work in such a multi-cultural and multi-racial nation as Brazil? Apparently, the leadership of the church came to the conclusion that the policy was no longer feasible.

What is the point for us as leaders?

I think the point is that it is inevitable that we will feel a loneliness if we are leaders with conviction and a strong personal resolve. From the historical record of the event that I recounted briefly above we can see that conviction and resolve can take us in directions that were previously contradictory. The LDS church did an about face. And that alone may require more conviction and resolve than continuing the current direction.

University of Wyoming Stadium

There is an interesting side note to this story. Wyoming went on to trounce BYU that day 40-7. But coach Lloyd Eaton suffered a great deal personally for his personal convictions, as did the University of Wyoming’s football program. Many athletic historians consider this act to be the beginning of the great downfall of the Wyoming football program and victories on the gridiron in the future would become few and far between for the only major college football program in the “Equality State.” Indications are that it happened mostly because talented black athletes shunned the Wyoming athletic program for nearly a decade after the protest. And the former powerhouse of the Western Conference has yet to fully regain its glory.  But, I for one, believe that it it shall and it is showing signs of its former greatness.

So here we have two leaders with conviction with two different outcomes. Is there a message there? I believe that there is. And that message is that conviction is not always convenient. And strong conviction often brings feelings of loneliness.

How are you feeling today? Do have a sense of loneliness in leadership?

 

Photo credit: joansorolla Creative Commons site / Foter / CC BY
Stadium photo courtesy of the University of Wyoming

In case you are interested, here are a couple of links that were used to research this article.

BYU Football: Remembering the Black 14 Protest
Wikipedia

 

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  • Janet Johnson

    My convictions and my God are all that keep me from the total insanity that leadership loneliness brings. Every leader faces giants and must make decisions within the walls of that loneliness. Knowing that those that there is an anchor to hold on to in those times is critical, because other simply do not understand why we do what we do. They don’t understand the struggle, the humanity, the pain, and therefore, they don’t understand the isolation and loneliness leaders face. We must move forward anyhow, so our convictions hold us and keep us from being lost in the void. However, sometimes, I think we hold those convictions so tightly, because they are our “comfortable friends,” that we fail to see when they really do not apply to some situations, or when those convictions need to change. It seems that in such situations, leaders can become truly, and utterly lost and lose effectiveness, thus becoming even lonelier. Just a few rambling thoughts from a lonely leader who sometimes must revisit her convictions and her decision making process.

    • Kevin Bowser

      Janet, I really like the depth and pathos of your comment. I have many thoughts swirling inside my head as I read your comment. I have a very dear friend who is preparing and article on the tactical value of retreating and I think it may shed some more light on some of your thoughts. By the way, when can we expect a written contribution from your perspective???

      • Janet Johnson

        Thanks…sorry about the typos in that comment! Ugh.
        As for when I may contribute again? Not sure. This very “big picture” girl sometimes has a hard time filtering out specific thoughts sufficiently to focus one just one pointed idea. Still thinking though.

  • Wayne Butler

    Being in Laramie and comparing your article to stories I have heard from those on and off the grid iron are accurate.

    Mr. Hinckley, like Paul Roach, was another of those great men with vision who graced Laramie for a time with his presence. I know men who now grace the locker rooms of War Memorial Stadium who have the potential to make as tremendous an impact for the Wyoming Cowboy Football program as did Mr. Hinckley and Paul Roach.

    You mention conviction…it is the root of WHO we are. If we have no conviction, our society will certainly reveal that “true nature” to the world!

    I have a friend in those locker rooms who has made a statement to me several times that I thinks is relevant for any leadership program: “you can’t change the fruit until you change the root”!

    Leadership at all levels of society and mentoring those in NEED of leadership is a passion of mine. Sad to say in light of recent domestic events, some don’t see their NEED for help!

    Caution!!! Leaders, if you are in a program that NEEDs help…check the roots!

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