Manday: Lone Survivor


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I experienced Lone Survivor on this weekend.  Simply put.  Go see it.

During the film, two Operators were seated in front of my spouse and me.  They were sobbing through the entire film.  Several times, they were calling out the names of actual SEALs who were making cameos in the film.  To say the film was powerful would be an understatement.

Veteran Chris Marvin wrote in Parade

In my opinion, seeing Lone Survivor should be a civic obligation.

As citizens, we don’t owe much to our country from a legal perspective. Paying taxes, obeying laws, and serving on juries are mandatory. Voting is optional. Yet our democracy depends on citizens exercising more than the bare minimum of civic responsibility.

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I do not have much to add to the many comments about the film.  Just go see it.

 

Clear Communication?

Last year, I posted an article titled, “Let Your Yea be Yea; and Your Nay, Nay” in which I discussed the importance of clear communication from a leader. I used a negative example of a press release quoting John Chambers of Cisco Systems which was filled with very ambiguous, non-committal verbiage…or what I call “weasel words”.

Because there was a lot of positive response to that original post, I thought I would continue in that vein, but on a much lighter note. I ran across the following list a number of years ago. It “interprets” terms used in scientific or academic papers, and I found it rather humorous.

  • “It has long been known”…I didn’didn’t look up the original reference.
  • “A definite trend is evident”…These data are practically meaningless.
  • “While it has not been possible to provide definite answers to the questions”…An unsuccessful experiment, but I still hope to get it published.
  • “Three of the samples were chosen for detailed study”…The other results didn’t make any sense.
  • “Typical results are shown”…This is the prettiest graph.
  • “These results will be in a subsequent report”…I might get around to this sometime, if pushed/funded.
  • “In my experience”…Once.
  • Clear Communication - 1“In case after case”…Twice.
  • “In a series of cases”…Three times.
  • “It is believed that”…I think.
  • “It is generally believed that”…A couple of others thinks so too.
  • “Correct within an order of magnitude”…Wrong.
  • “According to statistical analysis”…Rumor has it.
  • “A statistical-oriented projection of the significance of these findings”…A wild guess.
  • “A careful analysis of obtainable data”…Three pages of notes were obliterated when I knocked over a glass of iced tea.

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Convenient vs. Covenant Leadership

I know that today is Fatherhood Friday.  But, I was discussing leadership topics with fellow author / leader, Wayne Butler the other day and I was a little aggravated with the state of leadership among husbands and fathers.  Unfortunately, the lack of leadership is just too easy to identify today wherever you look.

Convenient vs Covenant - 1One of the descriptions for leaders that I observe today is that they are being convenient leaders.  So, what does that mean?

I think it means that they see some positive aspects of being a leader.  And that is a positive thing I believe.  However, they do not seem to grasp that leadership is inherently a difficult thing and that at many points in the process it is not fun.  So, while the task of leadership remains easy or fun for them, they remain engaged.  And when it gets too hard for them, they retreat from the challenge and shrink from their responsibility.  This is what I call a Convenient Leader.

Convenient vs Covenant - 2One of the descriptions for leaders that many of us are trying to encourage and promote is that of a covenant leader.  So, what does that mean?

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Celebrating, Taking a Break and Some Changes

Leadership Voices entered 2014 with a full head of steam thanks to a strong finish to 2013.

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We have seen our readership grow beyond our wildest dreams.  Since we started analyzing our website activity on March 3rd of last year and through the end of December we had almost 11,000 visits to the many pages of the website.  And of those visits, almost 6,500 were unique visitors to the site.  And altogether, folks read over 20,000 pages on LeadershipVoices.com!  We are reaching over 1,000 people every month with positive messages and inspiration to be come a better leader.

In this time period we brought you 264 new and original articles on many aspects of leadership.  Some of them drew a lot of interest in a short period of time such as the first guest post by David Tannery.  As of today it has been read over 340 times.  Another guest, Chris Fowler provided an article and it was read almost 1,500 times.  One of my own that was written about the leadership style of Mahatma Gandhi has been seen and read almost 1,300 times.

But we have had many more that were not read by as many, still had an incredible impact on people’s lives as seen by the comments and replies to the article.  Billy Long’s article on being a “Sheepdog” continues to have the most comments.  Another one about the qualities of manliness that have stood the test of time has had a lot of comments as well.  Articles on Mentoring and Accountability were also very well received by you, our audience.  There have been others that were impactful as well.

Taking a Break and Some Changes - 1However, in the month of January you may seem some of our regular contributors taking a break.  Several of our authors are taking some much needed time off to recharge their creative batteries and will be returning in February.  And that will lead to some changes.  For instance, Dan DeVries has stepped up and has written a 5 part series of articles on Financial Leadership in the Home that we will be publishing soon.  I have previewed them and they are spectacular.  I think you will really find them beneficial to you and your family.  I am also working with some more guest authors and I am excited about their contributions as well.

Women’s Wednesday will be on hiatus during January so that Jamie Joy can focus on her own writing for her blog found at http:JamieJoy.com. There may be some other changes and some folks stepping up to provide content during this time.

Taking a Break and Some Changes - 2Change is coming too.  I am also working on a series for the month of February that will address some key areas of leadership.  Watch the website and newsletter for more details on this series and the other articles that will be coming your way.  And speaking of the newsletter —  Are you receiving our free weekly newsletter that summarizes all of the new and fresh content each week on LeadershipVoices.com?  If you are not receiving it, would you please look to the right sidebar of the website and give us your name, email address and how you prefer to receive the newsletter?  Or, just use the simple form on the bottom of this post today.  We promise not to spam you or hit you with anything other than the newsletter or a special notice about an upcoming live leadership event.

Be patient with us in January and we will continue to bring you new, fresh and original leadership content.

So, “Thank You!” again for a great year.  You have made us a part of your busy lives and we hope that our contributions are helping you become a better leader in every aspect of your life.

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Manday: A Husband and Father’s Take on the Ranger Creed.

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I was never a Ranger but many of my friends are.  I have always admired their Creed and see it as one of the most motivational things I’ve ever read.

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Recognizing that I volunteered as a Ranger, fully knowing the hazards of my chosen profession, I will always endeavor to uphold the prestige, honor, and high esprit de corps of my Ranger Regiment

Recognizing that I volunteered as a Husband and Father, fully knowing the difficulties of staying happily married and raising good children in the modern world, I will always endeavor to uphold the Honor, Happiness, Faithfulness and Fidelity of my family unit.

Acknowledging the fact that a Ranger is a more elite soldier who arrives at the cutting edge of battle by land, sea, or air, I accept the fact that as a Ranger my country expects me to move further, faster and fight harder than any other soldier.

Acknowledging the fact that a Husband and Father is an all encompassing and life changing job, I accept and relish the fact that my family expects me to work harder and be better that other Husbands and Fathers around me.

Never shall I fail my comrades. I will always keep myself mentally alert, physically strong and morally straight and I will shoulder more than my share of the task whatever it may be, one-hundred-percent and then some.

Never shall I fail my wife or children. I will always keep myself mentally alert, physically strong and morally straight and I will shoulder more than my share of the task whatever it may be, one-hundred percent and then some.

Gallantly will I show the world that I am a specially selected and well-trained soldier. My courtesy to superior officers, neatness of dress and care of equipment shall set the example for others to follow.

Gallantly will I show the world that I am a special kind of Husband and Father. My love and faithfulness to my wife and my love and caring for my growing children shall set the example for others to follow.

Energetically will I meet the enemies of my country. I shall defeat them on the field of battle for I am better trained and will fight with all my might. Surrender is not a Ranger word. I will never leave a fallen comrade to fall into the hands of the enemy and under no circumstances will I ever embarrass my country.

Energetically will I meet the challenges and pitfalls of being a Husband and Father. I will overcome any challenge for I am a better and more motivated Husband and Father and will try with all my might. Breaking my sacred Oath is not an option. I will never leave my Wife or Children behind and will in no circumstances will I ever embarrass my Wife or my Family.

Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to fight on to the Ranger objective and complete the mission though I be the lone survivor.

Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to continue on according to God’s plan and complete my mission of taking care of my wife and raising good capable children no matter the circumstances placed upon me.

Rangers Lead The Way!!!

The Little Chap Who Follows Me

The Little Chap That Follows Me - 2There has been a hand-made item hanging in my home for almost 30 years. It is very valuable to me.  And this Christmas I gave it away.

My mother made a needlepoint poem and picture of a father and little boy walking together. That piece of handiwork was framed and placed in a place of prominence in my home since my son was born. I have seen it every day of my son’s life as I was getting dressed for work. And it has caused me to stop and pause and ponder the significance of it on more than one occasion.

But, this Christmas it was time for it to find a new home. It was time for it to go to the home of the next new father in our family line. My son and his wife are expecting their first born son soon. And it is my prayer that an old piece of needlework will impact my son’s life and his son’s life the way that it has impacted mine.

I confess that I get a little emotional when I read that poem. I know some may doubt the veracity of my manliness if I admit that. But I am OK with their doubts. They don’t concern me in the least. Because I know the importance of heeding the words in that poem.

So, what is the point for this first Fatherhood Friday of 2014?

My point is

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A Gift and a Leader

gift boxWhat is the best gift you can give as a leader?

So, I was sitting around on the couch Wednesday trying to keep glitter out of my coffee cup and avoiding an ever growing cloud of wrapping paper and ribbon flying though the air, and it occurred to me what is the best give I could give? So as I sit in my office on the day after Christmas, I have decided to do an internet search on Leadership and gifts, and I would like to share what my research has taught me.

As much as I don’t want to admit it, it seems as though honest feedback is the consensus best gift a leader can give their team. Everyone wants to know the truth, no matter how difficult it is to hear. But even though we want to hear honest and direct feedback, we generally don’t look on those occasions with much joy or pleasure.

A Gift and a Leader - 2Most people can come up with several traumatic stories from their pasts where they have given or received negative feedback. These negative experiences embed themselves into our psyche and become a source of anxiety. On the other hand, most people can also come up with an experience where a person gave them helpful feedback that contributed to a marked improvement in their effectiveness and influenced their success. So as leaders how do we help people see that whether the feedback is critical or positive it is a gift?

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Manday: A Movie Recommendation and Two Must Read Articles

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I am a movie buff.  I have passed that passion for movies on to my two boys and my wife.  Every week, my bride and I have date night.  That date night usually consists of dinner and a movie.  The day after Christmas, my boys insisted on seeing The Secret Life of Walter Mitty.  I want to highly recommend this film to you and your family.  Ben Stiller directs and stars in this amazing film.  It has a kind heart and is worth your time and money.  It is not a violent film filled with flashy stars flaunting their skin so it won’t be in the theatre for long.  See it.

One of the most powerful elements in this film is the use of cut scenes, dream sequences, and wild adventures that play out Walter’s fantasies and imagination. One minute everything is normal for Walter, and then suddenly, the scene is interrupted with loud special effects, character action, and slightly unrealistic scenarios. There is a part where Walter and his boss (Scott) are having a confrontation, and Walter zones out and imagines soaring through the city and fighting his boss like something out of “The Matrix.” This can be confusing as the scene goes completely off the rails without notice, but most times after playing out Walter’s vision, everything settles down and goes back to reality. These jumps in and out of reality are quite entertaining, and it is amusing to see Walter snap back into reality with people calling his name while he stares off into the distance. Walter’s imagination only begins as fantasy, but as the film goes on, he begins to actually experience real life adventures. The special effects and scene transitions are more than satisfactory, and there are outstanding camera shots of mountains, oceans, volcanoes and other scenery. There are many fantasy or silly scenes throughout the film, but these are presented to look the best on screen as they possibly can.  –HAYDEN PITTMAN WFAA Special Contributor

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I am a father.  My 300 often share articles of interest about parenthood.  Ken shared the following article during one of our many breakfast meetings,  I found it convicting and thought provoking.  The article is entitled:  How to Raise a Pagan Kid in a Christian Home.  Click on the link and read it.  It will get the spiritual and moral juices flowing.

 “And that was such a huge shift for me from the American Christian ideal. We’re drinking a cocktail that’s a mix of the Protestant work ethic, the American dream, and the gospel. And we’ve intertwined them so completely that we can’t tell them apart anymore. Our gospel has become a gospel of following your dreams and being good so God will make all your dreams come true. It’s the Oprah god.”

Lastly, I am also a man who checks the pulse of politics and social issues.   My friend and popular author David T., shared an interesting article from the Wall Street Journal that I had to share with you.  I thought it was appropriate with all the turmoil surrounding free speech, reality TV shows, and alternate lifestyles.  I also found it amazingly appropriate for Manday.  I teased on Facebook, that Ms. Paglia’s views are pure heresy and would be rejected by the small fringe groups, mass media, and popular opinion makers.  I challenge you to read it.  The article is entitled: Camille Paglia: A Feminist Defense of Masculine Virtues.  Yes.  That Camille.

“Politically correct, inadequate education, along with the decline of America’s brawny industrial base, leaves many men with “no models of manhood,” she says. “Masculinity is just becoming something that is imitated from the movies. There’s nothing left. There’s no room for anything manly right now.” The only place you can hear what men really feel these days, she claims, is on sports radio. No surprise, she is an avid listener. The energy and enthusiasm “inspires me as a writer,” she says, adding: “If we had to go to war,” the callers “are the men that would save the nation.”

I wanted to share these three things with you as you start your New Year.

Here is to a great 2014!!!

Fraud Alert

Fraud Alert - 2 How many of you got a nice letter or email from your bank this week informing you that your debit card was possibly one of the ones compromised in the Target retail store data breach?

I got one!  But by the time I received the email notice from Chase’s Fraud Department, I had already discovered that something was amiss when I visited an ATM machine to withdraw some Christmas cash and was told that I was over my limit for the day.  There was only one problem.  I hadn’t used my card yet that day!  So, I toodled around to the lobby and inquired.  That was when I got the “good news”.  Chase’s Fraud Department had been informed by Target about the breach.  Chase then immediately went into “protect our account holder mode” and enacted limits on transactions until they could get all of the issues sorted out.  Now fortunately my bank account was safe and Chase is sending me a new debit card to be extra safe.  And I am grateful for that.

I worked for a short time in banking earlier in my career.  And although I am not an expert by any means, I know this.  Banks must stay abreast of all the latest potential hacks, attacks and attempts to compromise our bank accounts.  They do not put a system in place and then walk away and leave it on eternal auto-pilot.  They monitor the situation daily, hourly, and moment by moment and transaction by transaction.  And when a transaction is slightly different from our normal pattern, a little “red flag” goes up and the bank checks it out.

Fraud Alert - 4This became apparent to me anew and afresh recently on a business trip to Prague in the Czech Republic. 

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