What Keeps a Team Together?

OTT - 20130611Unity is the key. Whether we’re talking about a sports team, work team, school team, seal team, church team, or home team (family), it’s essential that we get everyone on the bus and moving in the right direction with a shared vision, focus, purpose and direction. When a team comes together, and stays together, they are able to succeed together.

But if unity is so important then why aren’t more teams more united you might ask? Why are there so few great teams and so many average and dysfunctional teams? The answer is simple. It’s not easy to bring people together. Agendas, egos, politics, power struggles, negativity, poor leadership, mismanagement, complaining, whining, and a lack of vision, focus and purpose all prevent a team from uniting and performing at their highest level. Leaders, how much of this can we prevent?

The bad news is that there are hundreds of negative forces and factors that can sabotage your organization, teamwork, unity and success. The good news is that unified teams show us it is possible to overcome them. There is evil around us everywhere, destroying families, undermining work groups, and tearing down churches. Supporting, and keeping our Teams together is the most important thing we can do. Christ said we, the people make up the church, and I’m saying the unity of the people is most important on any team.

Unity happens when leaders are committed to and engaged in the process of building a united, (successful) winning team. It requires focus, time, and energy. Unity occurs when team members care more about the vision, purpose, success and health of the organization than they do their own personal agenda. Changing or developing the mindset is essential. Unity happens when each person on the team can clearly see how their personal vision and effort contributes to the overall vision and success of the team. This involves meaningful conversations, and exchanges. This results from weeding out the negativity that sabotages far too many teams. The dissolution of a team, of any kind, is painful.

The great news is that the process of unification of a team, no matter how long it takes, is a beautiful thing. Think of how awesome a father daughter dance is at a wedding; think about what the perfectly executed football play looks like. I have heard from leaders who have increased their productivity and performance by simply developing unity. I don’t think any of this is difficult, it just requires COMMITMENT. When all members are committed team unity is a foregone conclusion. I wish that for you and your team.

Leaders are we promoting unity? Fathers are we supporting and being involved in all aspects of our families lives? Pastors are you making periodical visits to all outreach ministries? Bosses are we involved in our companies off property gatherings? Commanding officers, are we spending time with our men, in the real difficult time, the off time and the training?

I have to be the first to admit; I am not doing all I could be.

 

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Manday: Husbands, Date Your Wives

holdinghandsLet’s keep this simple.  In our busy world, we can get trapped with rushing children to this event and then to the next.  It can be exhausting.  It can be costly and it can consume a once healthy marriage.  You can easily find yourself living for the kids.

One technique we like to utilize in our house is the word, No.  Say no to extra things in the schedule.  As leader of the house, men, we need to help prioritize the schedule.  I would like to share the following advise I received as a young married husband to you.  I don’t know if this is in some Gary Smalley book or Marriage enrichment book…I don’t have time to read that drivel.  All I know is that what I’m about to share with you works.

Ready?  Here it is:

Dialogue daily.  Date Weekly.  Depart Monthly.

Dialogue daily.  Men initiate a daily conversation with your spouse.  Call her if you’re running late.  Text her.  Message her.  Just talk to her.  Don’t lose the original dialogue you had when you pursued her.

Date weekly.  Court your wife.  Find a sitter and take her out.  Make excuses to get alone with your spouse.  Go to a movie.  Dinner.  Most likely your spouse is a sure thing.  But plan a night out.  You do all the planning.  It can be as easy as a quick jaunt to Starbucks.  Just do it.   Go back to those days when you were dating and as soon as you left her presence…you couldn’t wait to see her again.  Also, double date.  Encourage another couple to join you.  There are some strained marriages needing a breather as well.

Depart Monthly.  Get out of Dodge once a month.  Not a huge vacation.  Make a day trip to Llano for barbecue as a day trip.  Go to Galveston.  Just get away for awhile.

The benefits are amazing.  Your offspring see the most healthy relationship between the two of you.  Boys and Girls see a Father in love with their Mother.  It’s good stuff.  Once again…have fun with it.  Say no to Baseball practice or Scout Meeting, or ballet….and yes to dinner with the Spouse.

And by the way…spare me the comments on Gary Smalley.  It is a preference.  Get off this blog and talk to your spouse.

Calling All Fathers!

FF - 20130607Everyone has a great “Father knows best” story.  Or, at least, everyone has a favorite anecdote about their Dad.

So, I am calling all Fathers to send me your favorite story about being a Dad.  And you Kids, I need you to send me your favorite story about your Dad.

I will take a look at each one and pick on of them to be the featured article for the Fatherhood Friday before this coming Father’s Day, June 16th.  Can you do it?  Will you do it?  It can be funny.  It can be heartwarming.  It can be anything that is memorable to you.  Let’s see who has the best story to share for Fatherhood Friday the 14th of June.

And, don’t worry, if you want it to be anonymous, just tell me and we will post it anonymously.  So, start thinking about it and try to remember the details of a great fatherhood story.  Send it to me by email at Kevin@LeadershipVoices.com.

 

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How is the view?

The Lead DogThat great southern philosopher, Lewis Grizzard, once said; “If you ain’t the lead dog, the scenery never changes.”

Let me give you a few minutes to visualize that picture.   –  –  –  Do you have a mental picture?  What do you see?

Yup, you see the northern end of a southbound dog.  Picturesque, isn’t it?

But here is the point that Grizzard unwittingly (or maybe not so unwittingly) makes.  He is making a point that we need to strive to be leaders and to strive to lead the pack.  We should not just be content to run with the pack.  And that is a great point.  But I think there is a greater point to be made here.

The greater point is about the actual role and behavior of the leader.  Although the guy in the parka that stands on the back of the sled has all of the outward appearance of being a leader.  He in fact is not.  He is the encourager.  He is the one who exhorts us on.  He may even be the one with authority and the power of the whip if he chooses to use it.  But, he is not the leader.  I would submit to you that leadership is by example, not by command.

The leader is the number 1 dog out in front.  That dog is the one that the other dogs follow.  He sets the pace and the actual path the sled will take within the confines of the terrain and environment.

So, what is the leadership principle here?

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Should there be an “I” in Team

I in Team - 1In my opinion, although being catchy phrase, “Why there is no I in team” is one of the most overused and possibly most misunderstood phrase of today’s culture. We see it everywhere, posted at the work place, plastered on signs hung from overhead steel girders, sports facilities and all over military bases, apparently anywhere someone or some organization deems a “Team” atmosphere will be valuable.

In order to develop a “Team” atmosphere, we must first decide what we consider a “Team” to be, and although at first glance this may appear to be a moronic question, is it?

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RANTINGS-Put a value on Your Time

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Time is money. Time is the most precious commodity. We hear that all the time and yet we so willingly give it up.  As a leader, I want to advise you to put a value on your time and teach others to value your time as well.

How? Be unavailable.

As a sales rep, I had to manage my time and clients shrewdly. My goal was to be easily accessible but not always available. I had responsibilities with other clients and I needed to allow myself time to be accessible for them. So I made some hard rules about the way I spent my time during the week.

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I remember wanting to eat my handgun because of all the worthless internal conference calls/meetings I had to endure. That isn’t going to change. So resign yourself to at least one day a week where you have to adhere to someone else’s timetable. The day of the week for me was every Monday. I gave up my Mondays to administrative work and being handcuffed to the desk or conference line.

I made some hard rules. I would

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Don’t Be Afraid to Be Silly

Acting Silly 053113-1One of the things that is the most important to us as men is that our wives and children respect us.  I think for many men respect comes before love in order of importance to the male psyche.  But, I won’t debate that here today.  Instead, I want to talk about something that in many ways may run counter to the notion of respect.

The opposite of respect is, of course, disrespect.  And as dads we cannot tolerate that from our children.  But consider for a moment the importance of being silly with your children.  Did you catch that?  I said that it is important to be silly with your children.  Why is that important?

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Mentoring Moment – Putting Your $$$ to Work for You

The 2012 Tax Season is winding down for most of us. Many of us (although not me) have already received refunds. Question: what did you do with yours? Did you set an example and save anything for the future?

In this Mentoring Moment, I want to speak to some of the younger readers of LV (and after the Saturday before last, I know you are out there!). I rely heavily on some work by Emily Brandon that goes back to the Fall of 2011 when she wrote about “Gen Y’s $2 Million Retirement Price Tag.”

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There is no question about it, “Twenty Somethings” will need to save much more than their parents did for retirement.

A recent research report by the Pew Charitable Trusts says younger baby boomers and Generation Xers face an uncertain retirement because of reduced savings, high levels of debt, and losses during the Great Recession.

The study found that members of Generation X, who are now between 38 and 47 years old, lost almost half their wealth between 2007 and 2010. Young baby boomers, who are between 48 and 57, lost more money but a smaller portion of their overall wealth. The report says both of those groups are struggling to save enough money for retirement and are lagging older groups in terms of their savings. They also hold more debt than those groups did at similar points in their lives.

Retirement won’t be impossible for Generations X and Y, but they will need

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5 More Qualities that Make an Effective Team Mate

Teamwork 20130528Last week I gave you 5 Qualities that Make an Effective Team Mate.  I said, I think at one point or another in our lives, we have all been members of a team.  Would you agree?

This week I want to round out the topic and give you 5 more qualities that I think are important in a team mate.

    1. Cooperation — Cooperation is the act of working with others and acting together to accomplish a job. Effective team mates work this way by second nature. Good team mates, despite differences they may have with other team members concerning approach and technique, find ways to work together to solve problems and get work done.
    2. Exhibits flexibility — Teams often have to deal with changing conditions — and often create changes themselves. Good team players roll with the punches; they adapt to ever-changing situations. They don’t complain or get stressed out because something new is being tried or some new direction is being set.
      In addition, a flexible team member can consider different points of views and compromise when needed. They don’t hold to a point of view and argue it , especially when the team needs to move forward to make a decision or get something done. Strong team players are firm in their thoughts and open to others — flexibility at its best.
    3. Is committed (to the team) — Good team mates care about their work, the team, and the team’s work. They show up every day with this care and commitment up front. They want to give a good effort, and they want other team members to do the same. Usually this attribute is contagious.
    4. Works as a problem-solver — Teams, of course, deal with problems. Sometimes, it appears, that’s the whole reason why a team is created — to address problems. Good team players are willing to deal with all kinds of problems in a solutions-oriented manner. They don’t simply rehash a problem the way problem-dwellers do. They don’t look for others to fault.
      Team players get problems out in the open for discussion and then collaborate with others to find solutions and form action plans.
    5. Treats others in a respectful and supportive manner — Team players treat fellow team members with respect — not just some of the time but consistently. In addition, they show understanding and the appropriate support of other team members to help get the job done. They don’t place conditions on when they’ll provide assistance, when they’ll choose to listen, and when they’ll share information. Good team players also have a sense of humor and know how to have fun (and all teams can use a bit of both), but they don’t have fun at someone else’s expense. Quite simply, effective team players deal with other people in a professional manner.

Are we being good team mates? Are we reliable, listening, and communicating effectively? Does someone want to join our team? Are we leading all of our team members correctly? Are we cooperating with the team, and focusing on common goals? Do any of these things ring true in your life? I know the do to me, I have two friends who are sometimes on the team, and sometimes not, are my teams goals changing or are theirs?

 

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Memorial Day Heroes

Memorial Day - 2013Not all of our heroes have died in battle.

Please don’t take that the wrong way.  I truly mean no disrespect.  But a thought came to me as we stopped by Veteran’s Memorial Cemetery late yesterday afternoon.  The thought was that heroes come in many forms.  Consider if you would, the man that came home from the war and made a life for himself.  He married his sweetheart.  He got a job.  He went to work every day.  He helped his wife raise some children.  He served on the church board.  And he lived a full life.  That man may not be a military hero.  But he was a hero nonetheless.

Such can be said for both my father and my father-in-law.  Both of these men served in the military.  Both served in times of war.  My father served during the Korean War.  It was a somewhat forgotten war.  Dad dodged a few bullets while in Korea and he served with honor.  My father -in-law served during the Vietnam War.  And if Korea was a forgotten war, then Vietnam was certainly a forgettable war to many Americans.

Dad - USAFHowever, neither of these men are my hero because of what they did in the service of their Country.  Both of these men are my heroes because of what they did in the service of their family.  The late 1950s saw them leave the military and rejoined civilian life.  And the 1960s and 1970s were times of great social upheaval in our Country’s history.  It was almost social warfare.  So many of their contemporaries and colleagues may have been military heroes, but they were wounded by that social warfare and went AWOL as husbands and fathers.

So, on Memorial Day and on Manday, I encourage those of us who are fathers to be a hero.  Do not be AWOL.  I encourage you to show up for duty every day.  Be a “Hero of the Home“.

And to those of you who have lost loved ones in the service of our Country and for the sake of freedom, we at LeadershipVoices say, “Thank You” for paying the ultimate sacrifice that we can lift our voice in freedom.

Have a great Memorial Day

 

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